Archive for May, 2008

Game: A Visual Representation

If there is anything school never taught anyone, it’s that people do not learn the same way. For example, some people excel at reading and reading comprehension, some people think in numbers, and some people are more inclined to learn visually.

The whole point of this site is to teach you how to improve your skills with the ladies, and to build up your general self-confidence (because the two go hand in hand!). If you are not the type of person that can easily absorb text and translate it into real life application, fear not! This image will teach you everything you need to know about how to get more girls.

So for crying out loud, stop doubting yourself. Is she into you? Maybe, maybe not. But if you implement the sort of game that is depicted in that image, she will make you the object of her desire soon enough! As silly as the picture may seem, it is no exaggeration. If you find yourself in the vicinity of a (likely intoxicated) girl impersonating a stripper, do NOT give her the attention she so desperately craves. Even if every other guy is drooling all over her, she’ll want to know why the hell you’re not, and she’ll try anything to get a reaction out of you. This same philosophy can be applied to many scenarios, not just mock pole dances. So keep your eyes open, your game sharp, and your wits about!

How to Meet Nice Girls

As hard as I might try to sculpt you into calloused, womanizing machines, some of you are just simply too good-natured to complete all the steps necessary to become a true ladies man. Not to worry, this does not mean you are destined to lead a lonely life of online video games and fast food, but it’s definitely tougher when you’re younger. Young women tend to be much more self-absorbed than women with a little bit more experience. This dysfunction causes them to desperately crave material things in a never ending search for fulfillment. In addition to material things, they are also attracted to men with more superficial qualities such as striking good looks or loads of money. This whole warped system of seeking gratification leaves them feeling empty. All signs of confidence and self-esteem are merely facades to cover up how worthless they truly feel. It’s not until they’re older that they realize what will really make them happy.

“Oh, WomanWhisperer, you big jerk with a weird name, not all girls are like that!” Why, that’s precisely right, my outspoken friend. Unfortunately, due to the way society and the media shapes the minds and bodies of young women, the vast majority of the super hot ones fall into the aforementioned category. Of course, there are diamonds in the rough, but the sad reality is that many men will spend their entire lives unsuccessfully searching for one. So how do you find a genuinely “good” girl, if there is such a thing?

First of all, she’s not at your favorite bar. She’s not at any bar. She may have been to one bar, once, because a friend dragged her there, and she swore she’d never go back. But chances are, you aren’t going to meet her on that one exceptional night. Why would you want to? She isn’t going to take anyone seriously that she meets in that atmosphere.

The truly “good” girls have a healthy bond with their family, and likely spend a great deal of their time with their family (going out clubbing with her sister doesn’t count, so rule that girl out). Having problems within the family is by far the greatest catalyst that perpetuates bad behavior and promiscuous activity. Those are two characteristics of a girl that you would likely never classify as a “good” girl. So if a girl that spends a bunch of time with her family is likely to be a prized “good” girl, how the hell do you get to her? Well, it’s not easy. Slutty girls are low hanging fruit, my friends. If you want a great long-term investment, you’re going to have to put a little more work into it.

“Cold sales” are exceedingly difficult with good girls. I’m tired of using quotes every time I type good girls so it’s just plain good girls from here on out! But like I was saying, going up to a good girl out of the blue is not likely to work. First of all, you instantly classify yourself as the kind of guy she wants nothing to do with. Her father has probably done a great job of teaching her that most guys just want to get into her pants, while simultaneously providing a loving home environment so she didn’t need to rebel and go fuck half the football team. This is not to say that “cold sales” with good girls are impossible, but they are certainly very advanced, and should only be attempted by professionals.

The workplace is one plausible venue for good girl hunting, assuming you don’t work at a strip club or in some other unedifying environment. Truly good girls are humble, and don’t mind working 9-5. They may have the same aspirations and fantasies of being independently wealthy as the bad girls, but without the expectations or bitter sense of entitlement. Meeting a good girl at work is great because you have lots of time to establish a good rapport with her and slowly gain her trust. You simply must earn her trust if you hope to get anywhere with her. Luckily, girls in this phylum have a much higher threshold for allowed platonic interaction before you are permanently cast into the friend zone. In other words, you can be friendlier with her than with the not-so-good girls without as much of a risk of her ruling out any romantic relationship with you.

Depending on what sorts of cohorts you associate with, you may be able to gain access to a good girl through a friend or acquaintance, or better yet a family member. Nothing wins more points with a good girl than when you are endorsed by someone that she already trusts.

Of course, there is always the internet. The world of online dating can be hazardous, but it can also be incredibly effective due to the intensely accurate compatibility processes of many dating sites. I personally recommend True.com, but there are several other reputable dating sites online as well. Most will allow you to sign up and browse their members for free. True.com even has a section specifically for Christian singles, for those of you super nice religious guys!

I don’t think that any genuinely nice guys should have to be ashamed of who they are or pretend to be someone they’re not. In a perfect world, girls would appreciate nice guys and be begging them to shag them all day long. Unfortunately, the reality is that the dating game does not favor nice guys. Luckily, with your charm and a little bit of cleverness, you can still get any woman you want. And as you get older and girls start to re-prioritize their values, it gets a lot easier. Of course, it’s up to you whether or not you want to give the head cheerleader a chance at your high school reunion…but I’m betting you won’t.

Accessorize! More conversation Tactics….

We all know girls pay really close attention to what they wear in addition to their outfits. Whether it be bracelets, jewelry, stupid pointy fucking shoes, purses or whatever, their appearance is all very closely and carefully calculated. Mostly, I think they do this for the sake of other girls. They like being complimented on that Tiffany’s ring or Chanel purse. In fact, some of them are even renting designer purses, and it certainly isn’t to attract guys. When was the last time you noticed or cared about the brand of some chick’s purse? If you’re even considering that thought, then you probably like men.

Mystery, the pick-up artist, utilizes another clever tool. Man, I hate bringing him up so much because I think he’s a total douchebag who was molested by Kenny G as a child. Anyway, he teaches his pupils to wear something really ridiculous to get a woman to approach you and get a conversation going. He suggests binoculars or swimming goggles around your neck. As retarded as that sounds, he is on to an even deeper point here. When you’re in a conversation with a prospect, little things can really help keep it flowing. I, for one, hate small talk. I can’t stand it. But, I’m really really good at it. I’m good at it because I’m very aware of my surroundings, and I’m good at finding things to wield to my advantage. Which brings me to the meat of this bloggity blog!

Male accessorizing! Ok, that sounds a little too…well you know. I can’t think of anything else to call it so we’re just going to have to use Male Accessorizing. Deal with it! There are things you can wear, bring, and utilize in the art of conversation that can really break down those initial barriers and get her more comfortable with you. In an earlier post, we’ve already talked about the use of designer jeans. If that’s not your cup of tea, think about things that highlight the best aspects of yourself. For example, if you’re a musician, you can have maybe like a pickholder on your keychain. Then you can put your keys on the table because you don’t want to sit on them or something to draw her attention to it. I don’t know. Be creative. The point is, once she notices that pickholder, the conversation suddenly turns to you talking about being a musician! And what, pray tell, is more badass than that?? There are tons of other things you can do/use. Don’t wear something retarded like swim goggles…it has to be subtle, and you have to be able to act like it was not intentional. For the love of God, please please please don’t wear t-shirts with funny sayings. That hasn’t been cool since 2004. And, don’t carry a pickholder unless you’re really a guitarist. Do things that highlight the best part of you! This is not deceptive or manipulative in any way. You’re simply allowing the things that you want to tell her about yourself to come up without having to awkwardly bring them up. So for a few more examples, I will draw from personal experience.

By the by, the tips and advice you find on this site are not things we read in books or saw on TV. We know about them because we figured them out…mostly by accident.

So I used to wear one of those rubber bracelets because I believed in a certain cause. It never fails that a girl I’m talking to would reach for it and ask what it was all about. And while I’d explain, she’d seize the opportunity to express her interest by letting her hand linger on my bracelet/wrist. No joke. And, I figured that out by accident! I just happened to feel strongly enough about something to display it on myself, and I was able to talk passionately about it. Worked like a charm. For many years now, I’ve worn one of two necklaces. I have one that is a spiral carved from whale bone and another that is a hamza symbol, representing the resistance of evil. I acquired both of these in very exotic places. Again! Girls always ask about it during a conversation. It allows a very interesting aspect of myself to be brought into the conversation. I explain that the whale bone spiral was given to me at a surf town in southern Thailand. Bam! All of a sudden, she knows that I surf and that I travel to far away lands. She feels like she knows me better, gets more comfortable and it progresses exactly as it should. Not to mention those things are damn sexy. Plus, it again gives her the chance to play with my necklace, a very intimate gesture which lets me know that shit’s in the bag!

Once in a while, I’d get a girl to approach me simply because she noticed something I was wearing. Mostly, those are very average, probably desperate specimens so I don’t rely too much on that. If you want the conversation to move past awkward small talk, you have to be creative. Accessorizing is just one clever way to help you do that.