First off, stop asking yourself that damn question. We have no idea what we want. But for some reason we want you to instinctively give to us whatever it is we need. Even the most cynical girls want that one guy that sweeps them off their feet and somehow finds nothing wrong with the piles of cat hair carpeting their apartment. In short, we want you to think that we are perfect, or at least, perfect for you.

If you don’t have a friend that is a girl or a close sister that will be brutally honest with you about this stuff, consider me your new BFF.

Girls are crazy, I am one, so I can say that…you can’t. Even if we say it in passing, “I know I’m being crazy right now…” we expect you to tell us we are not. And NOT just by saying “no, you’re not…” something like, “I know you have been really stressed at work lately,” or “its ok, you can be as crazy as you want around me” or “of course not, that bouncer was completely out of line throwing you out…”.

Side note: no girl should EVER be thrown out of a bar/club for something she did. If this is your girlfriend…run.

Personally, and I know this is the case with most of my friends, humor is ESSENTIAL. I know you have all heard this before blah blah blah. But being able to laugh at yourself and even make a playful jab at us, that’s the best ice breaker. I love when guys are not afraid of me, treat me like I am a person not a piece of glass that might shatter if you say the “wrong” thing. Laughter makes everyone feel more comfortable and it is a bond between you, lets face it, the closer you get, the closer you are to getting laid.

Speaking of getting some, lets just dispel this ugly rumor right now. I THINK ABOUT SEX JUST AS MUCH AS YOU DO. Ok, well maybe that’s a little much since I really don’t know you. But seriously, girls are into it! (most of us…) And for those of you thinking this couldn’t be right, well, lemme tell you, you’ve done it to yourselves. The only thing calling girls sluts and whores does is to make it harder for you to get some. Maybe we don’t get hard-ons in public or have a hard drive full of porn (which is, by the way, REALLY creepy), but we do think about it, and we talk about it…a lot. So FYI, any girl you have sex with is going to tell her friends ALL the details.

Now, here comes the stipulation, keep your compliments in check. I cannot tell you how annoying it is to constantly be told the same thing over and over. ESPECIALLY if I can tell that you don’t mean it. And I will be able to tell. Never say anything simply for the benefit of someone else, or anything that you feel you “should” say. Wait until you really feel it. Maybe it’s a night you know she spent extra time getting ready, or maybe its right when she steps out of the shower. Whatever it is, tell her she is beautiful when YOU think it. Not when you think she expects it.

My last little bit of advice is actually a fact that I think a lot of guys don’t know. HOT GIRLS DO NOT GET HIT ON NEARLY AS MUCH AS YOU THINK. Yes, completely true. For example, I have some really hot friends and some, not so much. I would say that the “average” looking ones get hit on two to three times more often than the really attractive ones. Why is this? Because you’re INTIMIDATED! Chances are that girl you think is really hot has not been hit on by a decent guy in weeks. So grab your balls and get in there.

Posted: March 28th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Even when all signs point to yes, sometimes it’s difficult to see it (even though it’s obvious to everyone around you). So here is a list of tell tale signs that she is interested in you. Memorize it.

10. Eye contact. More than twice in 5 minutes and you’re in. Unless you’re doing something embarrassing to draw attention to yourself. Don’t take the low road.

9. She laughs at your jokes. Especially the ones that totally aren’t funny. This one may be difficult to pinpoint since chances are you believe that all of your jokes are funny.

8. She goes out of her way to acknowledge you. For instance, maybe at a crowded party you knock over a beer, and from across the room she shouts “party foul!” On a side note, stay away from any girl that shouts out “party foul!”

7. According to her, there is something wrong with every female friend you have. Most likely a physical flaw. If your friend is super hot, she will come up with something. Perhaps she has strange ear lobes.

6. She will mimic you. You might catch her plagiarizing one of your classic slogans. Over time they will even start adopting your opinions. This signal is as old as speech. It is also the primary reason so many women pretend to enjoy football.

5. She pretends to like your buddies…initially, anyway.

4. Thoughtful gifts/gestures. I know this one should go without saying, but a lot of guys let their insecurities drown out logic, and think absurd things like “maybe she’s just really nice”. If she was that nice she’d be ringing a salvation army bell outside Rite-Aid. Without a court order.

3. Physical contact. Especially after you tell one of your famous jokes. Maybe a light slap on the knee. Also, some of the more feisty ones will playfully punch you, with varying degrees of velocity. Stay away from them, no matter how spectacular they might be in bed.

2. Text messages. Unprovoked, irrelevant text messages.

1. She is constantly blowing you.

Posted: March 28th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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A significant portion of my personal random hook-ups have either been while out of town, or with someone from out of town. Women are FAR more likely to get physical with a stranger when they are out of their element. This is probably in part due to the fact that they feel the person is outside of their social circle, therefore not a threat to their social status. In other words, they won’t get any slut points. Similarly, when a local woman meets an out-of-towner, there is much more potential for speedy relations, for the same reasons. If you’re a stranger in town, chances are you don’t know her friends and co-workers. There is also of course the excitement and the wonderful lack of responsibility in knowing you will most likely never see each other again.

Be sure to keep this in mind the next time you are out of town. The farther from home the better. It doesn’t have quite the same effect if you’re merely in a neighboring city. Another country would be ideal, in fact. If you’d rather be a little more devious and a lot more lazy, just got to a place you don’t usually hang out, and agree with your buddies beforehand as to where you supposedly came from. Be sure to choose a place you at least have some basic knowledge of, for the sake of small talk. Be sure to always ask her where SHE is from first, to avoid incriminating yourself. Sure it’s a little underhanded, but it’s in the name of meeting women, so therefore it is justified.

The absolute best way to employ this tactic is to become an expert at spotting the non-locals in your own area. It is always ideal to have the home court advantage. After all, you know the area, you can offer her a private tour of all the wonderful things Indianapolis (or where have you) has to offer. It also helps if you are known at the bar/club. You can never have enough people greeting you in the presence of the girl you’re trying to take home. Popularity = status, and lots of friends are like references. The more people that know you, the less likely you are to drug her and put her all over the internet…and the more likely you are to seduce her with only your charm (and a few drinks). Photo documentation on the internet is optional (please inquire for howtogetchicks.info posting privileges).

Posted: March 26th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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How many times have your friends pointed out a couple where the female is clearly on a much higher evolutionary bracket than the male? Even TV sitcoms teach us that even fat, lazy dudes are capable of bagging extremely attractive chicks. It isn’t some fluke that you see great looking girls with mediocre guys far more often than the other way around.  Reason? Guys tend to base their interest on physical attraction, at least in the beginning stages, while girls have a host of other things going on in her mind. This completely refutes the oft heard statement “she’s out of my league.” There is no such thing as a girl out of your league. Let me type that again. There is no such thing as a girl out of your league. Clear? Good. Every girl is attainable because unlike men, they can be charmed, won over, and manipulated.

Manipulated? But, Blake! I don’t want to be THAT guy! Ok ok. Before you start throwing pebbles at me from up in your ivory tower, let me be emphatic on what I mean by manipulation. For good reason, the word carries a negative connotation. But in this scenario, your intentions are pure, right? In our world of dating, it is no longer an option to “be yourself.” If you want that approach to work, go to Europe. Here in America, movies and the media have built up a certain image of a man; one that defining here would be redundant and probably make me mad. Suffice it to say, a certain level of moderate deception and manipulation is unfortunately necessary in order to succeed. Don’t feel bad. Chicks do it too.

Enough of your philosophizing, jackass. Just tell me what to do! Well, as I’ve mentioned in previous posts, there is not a single set of rules that can be applied to every girl and every situation. You have to be able to adapt. But, there are some fundamentals things that being able to do well, will turn you into a black belt in charm.  I am, of course, speaking of the under appreciated art of conversation.

Now that you’ve mastered your perception of yourself, your confidence is at an all time high, you’re sporting a brand new pair of True Religion jeans and you have your wingmen in tow, you’re meeting a ton of women. Let me start by saying this: your attitude and confidence will shine through no matter what you say. You’ve already made yourself an attractive commodity. She will want to talk to you. The purpose of these tips are to simply reel her in stronger and faster, to get that comfort level up so she won’t notice anything but how completely charmed she is.

Being a Renaissance man helps, but it’s not necessary. The guys I know with the best social skills are the ones who have a little something to say in just about every situation. They know music, news, art, sports, fashion…anything that could potentially come up in a conversation. They’re able to forge connections with women based on real or feigned mutual interest. This ability is akin to being born with a red belt in talking to women. All they needed to do in life was to learn to speak English without an accent and voila, black belt. Unfortunately, this phenomenon does not apply to everyone, but fear not! You too, can be this guy! Or, rather, to appear to be this guy!

I really should re-title this post the Art of Listening, or the Art of Pretending to Listen. Girls (everyone really) love to talk about themselves. They are generally insecure so your validation of things she has to say will do wonders in bringing her comfort level up. Ask general questions that can somewhat address what she is talking about, even if you have no idea. Find ways to weave in things that you do know. If she works at Starbucks, talk about how you prefer Coffee Bean. If she likes Jack Johnson, mention how all your gay friends like him too. You know, be creative. Keep the conversation going. Keep her talking and laughing. The more you can get the comfort level up, the faster and easier it will be to get her to come home with you. Or get her number or whatever it is your goal is. And never forget, no matter what you say, let your confident attitude shine through. You’ll have her begging you to take her home…

Posted: March 24th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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In this video you will see that the guy in the pink hat has obviously done something right. Not only has he captivated and instilled a hunger for his attention in the two girls, but he is putting them on public display, both at the party and on the internet. Sadly, when you go to the comment board, you find comments such as “that is the biggest crime ive ever seen the crime is thats not me and really hes acting like its hi firt time in a threesome god hes desperate”, and “Damn those girls are fine and that guy is a skinny bitch how the fuck did he do that? What does he have a huge dick and mentioned it to the girlies?! Where is this??”. The real injustice has nothing to do with the elementary level writing, but rather with the content and the intent of the comments. Rather than applaud this young man for his achievement, they prefer to discredit it. They would much rather write it off as a fluke than to acknowledge that they too could be capable of such feats if they only applied themselves. Yes, alcohol was almost certainly involved, but those girls are hardly incoherent. They are well aware of the situation. In fact they are engaged in a silent tug of war with Mr. pink hat, which the blond is clearly dominating. At this point he has them so deep in his back pocket, that he really can do no wrong.

How did he accomplish this? Well, there is a good possibility that he just didn’t give a shit. Pardon my language. But that is the most likely scenario. A casual demeanor and relatively few signs of interest, and you’re in. Especially in a party situation where the other guys are drinking and not hesitating to blurt out professions of lust for every woman in range. The guy in the pink hat who stands out, yet appears only there to party, is the one every girl at the party will want, so much so that they will openly compete for his attention…even on the floor. I’m not saying he ignored those girls all night and then ended up making out with them. But he allowed them to feel comfortable with him and simultaneously interested by acting casual, fun, and slightly unattainable.

But what about all those bitter people neigh saying and leaving their jealous excrement all over the YouTube comment boards? Well, fortunately most of them are keyboard warriors that would not confront a potato in real life. However there will be other men, especially in public places where alcohol is involved, that will be threatened by your apparent mastery of women, and might possibly have something (uninteresting) to say about it. There will also be guys who will try to intervene, whether blatantly or more subtly. The dark art of cock-blocking is a threat to all of us charming men. Fortunately, the wisdom you can gain here at HowToGetChicks.info will beat the petty haters every single time.

Girls are very much aware of cock-blocking. If you see it coming, you can actually wield it to your advantage. First of all, pursuing women by way of cock-blocking is fundamentally wrong, and a sure fire way to fail. Not only are you usually making way too strong of a move, but you are blatantly impeding another man to do so. That’s like making an overly flirtatious move times two. Not only will she be turned off, but she’ll also realize he’s a dick. Best thing you can do, honestly, is let him take it and run with it. Give him all the rope he needs to hang himself and she will feel like somehow it was her fault that you disappeared. Once the second meeting comes around, you will by contrast appear to her to be several times more attractive than you were before.

In a way I do feel bad for the haters. Take one of the referenced comments above, for example. This poor ignorant young (hopefully) man suggests that he believes it might be possible that the young man in the video got the two girls by exaggerating the size of his penis. First of all, unless she’s your urologist, any woman even remotely concerned about that on your first encounter is all kinds of trouble. Furthermore, to think that using that as a selling point when talking to women is a good idea is insane. You might as well be a deranged homeless man on the street talking to a passing by woman in a pant suit. This kid clearly knows nothing of dealing with the opposite sex. Obviously the video intrigues and affects these kinds of people. Instead of letting it inflame their insecurities to the point where they feel the need to textually bash a stranger, why not try to improve their own social skills? Why not read this whole dang blog a few times??? Of course, none of the people I’m talking about are going to read this. Oh well…I suppose if it were a level playing field, there wouldn’t be any losers like them making us look so good. =)

Posted: March 22nd, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Well this may not end up being EXACTLY 10 things, but I’m going to take this opportunity to address some of the questions and concerns we’ve been getting via email. Thanks to all of you that have written.

All girls are NOT the same. A huge mistake that guys tend to make is to develop one approach, one way to converse, one way to act…in other words, a single version of game that he thinks will apply to any chick. False! The same approach will not work because girls are different. I suppose they could be categorized, but I’ll leave that to a different post. The point is you need to be able to do a quick analysis of the object of your attention and adjust your approach accordingly. Is she standing with her friends throwing down Jaeger bombs? Put on your party hat and be the fun version of yourself. Is she wearing a power suit sipping on martinis? Time to be professional, goal oriented and get those business cards out. You get the picture. There are certain general rules that always apply that we’ve mentioned before. But what works with one chick may not work for the next so keep yourself adaptable.

Stop trying to be like all those other guys. As we’ve touched on earlier, simply by reading this and putting the time into it to improve your romantic life already sets you apart from the tons of other guys out there. To reiterate, most guys you perceive to be good with women are NOT. They are simply lucky and too stupid to care and notice what douche bags they are. Leave that Affliction shirt in the bottom of your closet where it belongs. Take off your damn aviators when you’re indoors. With your confidence and newly perfected attitude, you do not need those things. Besides, if you’re trying to be someone you’re not, it will come across and end up hurting you. Remember, play to your strengths. You have way more to offer a girl than any bro, broski or chief. And for the love of God, stop flashing the west-side sign in pictures.

Talk to her friends. I know the entry below addresses this issue, but we’ve gotten so many messages about this I felt the need to address it again, in the context of the bar scene. Do not be afraid to talk to her friends. Not only will it instantly drive up those competitive instincts of your target, you eliminate the threat of one of her jealous pack forcing her to ditch you. Spread your attention around. Let your personality shine to everyone. Obviously, a wingman in this situation is extremely helpful. This is a very useful tactic that is hard to illustrate until you see for yourself. Trust us, it works.

Plan that first date. So you were successful at the bar, got her number and now you guys are going out Friday night. Perfect! Congratulations! But it is far from easy street from here on out. Planning a first date is not difficult. But, neither is completely f-ing it up. Keep it casual. A date is like an interview for both sides. Since you’re the guy, generally, you hold control to the location, time etc. Pick a place you feel comfortable. Do NOT suggest you meet up with her friends at the club they’re going to. That takes you out of your element and puts you uncomfortably into hers. Do NOT go to an art museum if you know nothing about art. This is your chance to control where she will perceive you in your best possible light. Is there a Starbucks you frequent and people you know are constantly passing through? Perfect. Go there. The trick is to get her in your element so she can see you at your most comfortable and confident.

Keep it casual!!!!!!!!!!! The number one unattractive quality we hear from girls is “too much too fast.” A ton of guys make the mistake of thinking that by the third date, you have her locked in and she’s your girlfriend and you’re going to buy her flowers and buy her a nice dinner or, God-forbid, jewelry. NO NO NO NO NO! Do not let go of your game. There is nothing that will send her running for the hills faster. Taking it slow is always a good idea. The minute you show her that smothering, cheesy side of you, she will do one of two things: take complete advantage of you, or lose all attraction. Never cease to be a man. At this point in your relationship, there is absolutely no reason to do any of the things I mentioned above. You can be romantic without being clingy. Never forget the things you did to reach this point, and you will do fine.

I know I said 10 things, but I’m getting hungry. I’ll address some of the other things you’ve written us about in a later entry. Keep those responses coming! Remember, you are already better than the vast majority of guys out there by trying to improve yourself. Cheers to you!

Posted: March 21st, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Anyone who has ever stepped foot into the wild world of night clubs knows that the female cohorts of a potential hook-up can be a terrible obstacle. Not only are they usually drunk and exaggerating their loyalty to their friends, but they are also simultaneously jealous of the attention their more attractive friends receive. Chances are, if you’re pursuing this route of meeting women, that it’s the more attractive ones you are interested in. Trying to compete with her friends is a losing battle, so don’t bother. You need to win their approval, and I don’t mean by buying them drinks all night. Bribing them (excessively) will have the same impact as it would on any woman. They will not respect you, and you will become nothing more than a resource for free drinks.

In order to win over the friends, you have to implement the same strategy that you would if you were trying to get them in bed. Spread your casual and confident flirtation evenly among them. Do not allow any of them (especially the object of your desire) to feel as though you are more attracted to her than the others. This will ignite a fire of competition BETWEEN the women. It’s a classic divide and conquer strategy, and it works wonders.

Keep in mind that no matter who the best looking one in the group is, she is just as insecure (if not more) than the rest. Even if her friend looks like a gorilla, and only vaguely female, she will come to a radical conclusion as to what about her is better than herself. Whether it be the size of her breasts, the color of her eyes, or even the pitch of her voice, they all have insecurities, and they are all on an eternal dysfunctional quest to find opportunities to justify them. While this is quite unfortunate, and makes the dating game increasingly confusing and frustrating, you can easily wield it to your advantage. But please mind your alcohol intake, to ensure that you don’t leave with the gorilla…unless you’re into that.

Posted: March 19th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Have you ever been out to a bar or a party and had a look around at the crowd? Inevitably, you will see at least a couple guys standing by themselves, looking around awkwardly and trying to summon up the courage to approach the girl sitting by herself at the bar or table. Pathetic looking right? Oh! I just thought of a better example. Remember the scene in American Pie where Jason Biggs is at a party and walks up to a group of girls talking and he just starts laughing just because they’re laughing? I don’t know about you, but the thought of that scene still makes me cringe with embarrassment? Well, there is a very easy way to avoid falling victim to those situations. I am of course referring to the one of the most important roles required of a man in his bonds of friendship: the Wingman. 

Quality over quantity…or something like that. Let me start off this discourse by explaining exactly what a Wingman is not. These friends may think they’re doing you a favor by coming out with you, but in these cases, you’d be better off leaving them at home.

The Jerk…although the Jerk may not intend to do anyone harm, he could salt your game like a fat man on french fries. Here is a situation you can find yourself if you bring a Jerk Wingman out:

JOE: So, are you from around here?

RANDOM HOE: Yeah, I actually just live up the street. What about you?

JOE: I’ve got a place in Newport Beach

RANDOM HOE: Really? That’s awesome. Do you live in an apartment or a house?

JOE: A house

JERK WINGMAN: Hahaha, yeah he lives in the basement of his parents’ house.

Everyone has a friend or two who is insecure and loves to call everyone out on everything. This is not the type of guy you want at your side when you’re trying to meet women.

The Womanizer….This friend is very good with women and is generally a borderline obnoxious romantic. When you bring this type of person around, he will not be able to help you because he is completely lost in his own world of womanizing. If the two of you are successful in getting a conversation going with a couple of chicks, he will immediately break off into his own private conversation with one of them. If you find yourself struggling in the least bit, The Womanizer will leave you high and dry.

The Party Animal…This one should be fairly self-explanatory. Obviously, it helps to be outgoing and fun loving, but there are limits here. You do not want to be baby-sitting the guy that drinks to the point of obscenity. Not only will he be completely unable to dish assists, his mere presence will render any skilled attempts you’re able to make useless. ——

Posted: March 17th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Despite what the Genie in Aladdin would have you believe, it is possible to “make” someone fall in love with you. Well, sort of. Like with everything else that we’ve talked about, most of the changes you need to make have to do with your perception of yourself, before you can accomplish anything. Including, of course, making her fall in love with you.

Before you dedicate yourself to winning over the object of your affection, you should really evaluate why. Is this someone you honestly feel like would make you happy in the long term? Or is she just super hot, and you really want to impress your friends? Or rub it in your ex-girlfriend’s face? No matter what the case, I say go for it, but be realistic, and go into it knowing your goals and your motivations. If you honestly have feelings for the woman, the stakes are obviously much higher, and you should play the game with greater caution. In relationship country, there is no such thing as “no more games”. That’s a fairy tale…a pipe dream. As much as all of us would like to be in healthy and functional relationships without games, it is an impossibility. So figure out what you want and why you want it before you go get it!

How do you get the one you have your heart set on to reciprocate your feelings? First and foremost, you need to understand and believe that it is possible. If you’re an avid reader of HowToGetChicks.info, then you already know that. But I reiterate, for your sake, without confidence you won’t accomplish anything. Now we’re going to assume you already have some type of relationship with the girl you’re after. Whether it be a friendship, acquaintanceship, or maybe you’re just coworkers. If not, you’ll need to implement some of the more initial tactics that can be found on this site. In addition, if you are “friends”, it is imperative that you read Avoiding the Friend Zone.

EVALUATE HER PAST

Everything you need to know about her can be determined by looking into her past. As much as many women would like to believe that their past is behind them, in most cases it is still very much in control of their lives. Without seeming too intrusive (which is a boundary you’ll have to determine based on how familiar you are with each other), inquire about her family. You can learn an incredible amount about her based on her childhood and her relationship with her parents.

Troubled Childhood

If her parents were abusive, you’re going to have a rough road ahead of you. But if you’re willing to be devious (and tell yourself it’s for her own good), then characteristics you should exude to attract her would be volatility and instability. Might sound crazy, but it works like a dream. If her father was completely absent from her life, then playing the role of the “player” will reel her in lightning quick. This entails charming her, and allowing her to witness or be made aware of your charming of other women. The nature of her dysfunction will attract her to a person that she knows will not stay around long enough for her to get attached, so she doesn’t have to make any significant emotional investment. After you have her where you want her, then if you really care about her you can take steps to help her tear down her emotional walls, but that’s up to you. This is about getting her where you want her.

Sheltered Youth

If she is from a sheltered home, her childhood was most likely very structured. Depending on the age of the object of your desire, this should be played differently. From her teen years until her early to mid twenties, she is going to be rebelling, to various degrees. The strain of such a regimented lifestyle will cause her to lash out against it, usually by experimenting with drugs and alcohol, and ALWAYS by fooling around with the bad boys. It is your duty to summon your inner bad boy. There are a million ways to do that, but I would suggest first and foremost to join a rock band. If you don’t have the musical inclination, then at least dress like you do. If she’s older, chances are she’s going to revert to the conservative values she grew up with, after she gets all the venting out of her system. At this point, you’ll need to trade in the studded belt for a traditional belt. You’ll also need to be somewhat goal oriented, because she’s probably looking for the father of her children. This is assuming you are trying to have a relationship. On a side note, if you’re simply trying to get a woman who had a sheltered youth into bed, then the bad boy approach will work well into her 70′s.

The Good Girl

Once in a great while, in this day and age, there will be a random occurrence of good parenting. As shocking as it may sound, it does still happen in certain parts of the world. I would definitely say a girl that is the product of said anomaly is ideal. She requires the least amount of deception and manipulation, all thanks to her parents. They instilled a value set in her without pushing her away, which is commendable. While I personally feel that this is the ideal girlfriend to have, she is also more likely to scrutinize you and your own past before she allows herself to get involved. You really need to turn on the juice in this situation, and be 100% on top of your game. You need to utilize the power of your self-confidence, and implement a secret weapon that we’ll get to in a bit. Also, don’t be an asshole. She won’t appreciate that.

The Rest

The remaining categories and sub categories of women are really just combinations of those mentioned above to different degrees. There are some universal techniques, however. As I’ve said a billion times before, be a strong and independent person. No type of woman is attracted to a man with no backbone. It is in her nature to seek out a partner that can protect her and provide for her. If you can’t satisfy even one out of two of those requirements, then she’s not going to want anything to do with you. Let me clarify, if you can’t APPEAR to satisfy one out of two of those requirements. Also, don’t make the mistake of trying TOO hard to become the guy that you believe she’ll be attracted to. Less is always more. If you completely change your personality, then it’s going to be obvious. Just find those elements within yourself and highlight them.

Humor

This one is so important I gave it it’s own paragraph. If anything is a secret weapon, it’s humor. Unfortunately, different people have different senses of humor. But one thing is unanimous, make a girl genuinely laugh and you’re already halfway home. I’ve talked before about increasingly her comfort level to get her into bed, but I don’t think I ever mentioned the power of humor. Getting her to crack up will multiply that comfort level immediately, and if you can consistently do that (without turning into a clown), then you have a huge advantage. But please be wary of the Friend Zone at all times. It is a very thin line and a delicate balance, but if you implement all the other aspects we’ve talked about, you will be well on your way. Please e-mail us to let us know how it goes.

Money

Some people think if you have enough money that you can get any girl. While that’s not entirely true, it’s pretty damn close. Undoubtedly having a vast amount of money and resources is going to make things a hell of a lot easier. Almost anyone these days can be bought. But do you really want to be with someone that might possibly secretly think of you as a cash register? On top of that, even if you do happen to have a lot of money and use it to your advantage…if you plan on having a real and fulfilling relationship, you’re going to have to utilize the rest of this site. There are no shortcuts! I will however say that achieving SUCCESS at anything is a great confidence booster, and if making a ton of money will bring you that confidence, then maybe you should focus on your career before you try your hand at love.

The conclusion is the same as the introduction and the running theme here, confidence is king. Just the fact that you’re here reading about how to better yourself and your interactions with women proves that you are a capable person, who knows what it means to set goals and accomplish them. Never forget that, and never let a woman feel like she has the upper hand. This isn’t Peter Pan, I’m not telling you that if you want it badly enough and you think happy thoughts you’ll be able to fly. I’m just telling you that if you respect yourself and realize your own personal value and potential, you can indeed have any woman you want.

Posted: March 16th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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Maybe you aren’t interested in dedicating your whole life, or even your whole summer, to the girl you just met at (insert location here). That’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s perfectly natural. You want to convince this (hopefully) beautiful woman that she should have sex with you. There are several ways to go about this, many that are far less successful than others. Throughout the course of history many men have resorted to shameless tactics such as deception, intimidation, even outright begging. I do not endorse any of these methods! Especially because they are unnecessary, and devoid of any real game. Besides, there is no pride in using devious persuasion to get her into bed. It will boost your confidence knowing that your charm alone was responsible.

All of the rules of the past posts still apply. Confidence is king. If you don’t think you can do it, you definitely can’t. Your life is not a teen comedy, and you aren’t the lovable nerd that gets the girl at the party at the end. First you need to create interest. Assuming you know nothing about this woman, you have to utilize all the resources at your disposal to get her initial interest. I’m talking about a cold sale here. Not your sister’s friend, or your boss’ daughter, or even your nephew’s babysitter. I’m talking about someone you’ve never met and have no known mutual interests with.

The Approach

Leave the pickup lines in the chain e-mails where they belong. Ideally, you should be able to position yourself somewhere in her vicinity, to where making a situational comment to her would be appropriate. For instance, if a horrendous looking man or woman walks by, you can shoot her an acknowledging glance, and subsequently get a smile. You can easily spin this into conversation shortly thereafter. If the butt of your joke turns out to be her best friend, well, you could work with that, but you’re better off starting from scratch. You need to be creative. If you decide to make a comment about her appearance or something she is wearing, be sure to ask yourself beforehand if it’s something she has likely heard a thousand times before. Otherwise you are immediately filed away in her mind in a sea of average joe’s who went to the same improv continuation school. A list of creative ways to engage a woman in conversation will be saved for another post. Until then, use your imagination! And always remember, what you say isn’t a fraction as important as how you say it. Communicate your confidence and independence immediately, while simultaneously appearing accessible. Trying to act mysterious while you’re approaching her is going to confuse her.

The Connection

If she doesn’t feel comfortable with you, she’s not going to sleep with you. It doesn’t matter how physically attracted she may be to you, if you make her uncomfortable, the attraction will quickly fade. She will give you all sorts of opportunities to make her MORE comfortable, you just need to know them when you see them, and pounce. What you specifically talk about isn’t really relevant, but keep the conversation going, and give her room to talk. Ask her questions about herself, but try to dig a little deeper than the usual “where are you from?”, “what do you do?” type of business. By all means, ask those things, but let her elaborate. The more you get her talking the more she will open up. Women (and people in general) love to talk about themselves, so this should be easy. If you’re scoring points with her as you should be, she will start giving physical signs. She’ll touch your arm when saying something candid, or in a loud environment she might get extra close to your ear to converse. At this point, all signs point to yes. If you really want to seal the deal, one extra step is to visit one or two other places together. Every different environment that she experiences with you, subconsciously, is like another date to her. This elevates her comfort level with you even further, AND, it may even make her antsy to spend some alone time with you. Of course, there is a thin line, and if you drag things out for too long, well, you have to know when to reel it in and when to keep setting the hook. All of this is very easy at the bar scene, for various reasons. For one, many women at bars are there intending to find someone to sleep with. Also, alcohol is involved, and adding booze is like playing Nintendo with the Game Genie. Does anyone else remember the Game Genie? I digress…if you are at a different venue, say a coffee shop or a business conference, obviously there are different dynamics that you have to take into account, but all can be used to your advantage if you are creative enough.

The Close

So how do you take that final step of inviting her to your place? Well, if you’ve harnessed all the wisdom here and applied it as masterfully as I know you can, she’ll be dragging you back to her place. But just in case, let’s cover a couple more things. She’s only going to come back to your place if you’ve done a bang up job of making her feel comfortable, because you’re still basically a stranger. You should have found some common interests by now, and using your ingenuity I’m sure you can concoct an excellent reason for why the party should be moved to your place. Perhaps you Tivo’d the latest episode of Grey’s Anatomy that she conveniently missed. Maybe you have all the ingredients to make a proper lemon drop, that will put the one from the bar to shame…I don’t know, man. It doesn’t even matter, because at this point she is just looking for a justification to go to your place, otherwise she’ll feel cheap. So give her something she can work with, and off you go.

If you need further motivation/inspiration, please refer to the image above. Also, if you have any dating/sex/relationship related questions, there is an email link on the right. Feel free to drop a line. Happy hunting!

Posted: March 15th, 2008 under Uncategorized.
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